Love, when brewed properly can be very beautiful. Birthing beautiful butterflies flying literally in your stomach. But sometimes, like a warrior’s sword, it cuts the most fragile part of your body, deeply, leading to broken heart.
Some people stop eating, when they’re broken-hearted. But please, is it your heart that is broken, or your stomach?
Others lock themselves up, refuse to talk to no one and everyone. Some even go to the extent of hurting themselves or committing suicide. In fact, when someone hurts you, isn’t it more absurd to want to hurt yourself in retaliation?
Below are some practical tips, you should rather employ, to help you overcome broken heart:
Always assume the best, but prepare for the worst: When you know anything can happen in your love life, it helps you to properly prepare for emergency situations like break-up. You don’t get shocked and miserable when people leave you, rather you prepare for it. While loving someone, you learn to love yourself even more. And you try to leave an allowance, a contingency space in your heart, just in case they leave!
Expect less from people and more from yourself: There is less you can control in this world and you need to accept that.
So your expectations should be focus on you, and what you can control and not on others. Because, you can’t control their actions.
When you expect more from people, you create a fertile ground for them to disappoint you.
Out of sight, means, out of mind: Delete anything and everything that reminds you of them.
Otherwise, it is like having a sore and poking it with sharp instruments.
Each time you see their pictures, especially at the initial phase of the broken heart, you’re adding more pepper to your heart. And please, don’t stalk them on social media, wanting to know the new girl/guy they’re seeing. Please respect yourself!
Read self-help books: There are several books that can help rejuvenate your soul. Reading books on personal development will help you focus on something more important. It will help shift your attention from the broken heart, whilst allowing you to develop yourself.
Live your best life: Don’t ever give anybody the chance to mess with your heart, and later have the satisfaction or feeling that, it was the best decision they took.
Make them regret it by working silently on yourself. Eat healthily, sleep well, take meaningful courses and live the best you can for yourself.
The best revenge you can serve people, is to serve them your progress, a better you!
Lastly, if all these fail, seek professional counselling from a professional counsellor.
Overcoming broken heart is often very difficult. But there is no one whoever tried overcoming it, who didn’t!